Saying, "Bless you," certainly works wonders when you become irritated at someone on the highway, in the supermarket, or wherever else you may be. Just bless them instead of cursing them as you go along.
If you have negative friends you really love and don't want to lose, then simply see less of them for the time being. Remember to first talk to people and explain how you feel. Only if there is no understanding should you break off a relationship.
Stopping the cycle of hate is everyone’s responsibility. We become more conscious of our own actions. We don’t sit around complaining about a situation. We take constructive, not destructive, action. We search for solutions, amid our pain, and in the process, we can heal and help ourselves and others.
Imagine a caterpillar gradually transforming into a butterfly. Does the caterpillar work to make this happen? Not exactly -- not unless you want to consider a caterpillar just being a caterpillar work. If you simply be who you are...
Caring, sharing, cooperation with and love of each other must no longer be seen as pious ideals, divorced from reality, but rather as the indispensable basis for the new realities on which our survival and well-being must be premised.
A lot of us were raised to always put others first... we always came last. However, since we are the one who is "in charge" of our own self, we need to take care of our own self first. Others need to take care of themselves first as well.
We each have remnants and holdouts of our younger self within our own adult self. The child who was hurt, not loved enough, not accepted, not encouraged, perhaps made fun of, misunderstood, ignored... the list can go on and on.
We may, at times, get caught up in trying to win an argument, or getting the upper hand on a decision that has to be made. At such times, we completely ignore what is for the highest good of all, and instead "stick to our guns" and want to be right at all costs.